In my book Encourage Others I give many specific situations in which comfort and encouragement can and should be given. Some of these situations are obvious and rather easy to guess while others are not.
The death of a loved one is probably one of the most obvious categories yet is the most difficult situation to apply comfort. Exactly how do you comfort someone who has lost a loved one? How to you approach them? Should you always use Scripture? Should you encourage them to talk about their departed loved one or should you sit with them and do and say nothing? What should you expect of a person experiencing grief? Does grief manifest itself the same in each case and in each individual? If not, how do you know what to do in each situation? Should you try to direct the thinking of a person in grief? If not, why not? If so, exactly how should you direct their thinking and what should you direct them to think about? Should you encourage mourners to talk? If not, why not? If so, exactly how to you do it? What should you encourage mourners to talk about? Should you try to stop mourners from crying? If so, why? If not, why not?
What is grief anyway? Are there stages in the grief process? If so, what are they and how do they differ from each other? If there are stages of grief, how do you know what stage a person is in and how do you deal with that stage? What specific biblical truth does a mourner need when going through each stage of grief? What attitudes should a mourner be encouraged to have? Does a mourner need practical help? If not, why not, If so, what type of practical help does a mourner need? Does their need for practical help differ in each stage of grief? Encourage Others provides answers to these questions and prepares you to know exactly how to comfort others in one of the hardest situations of all – the death of a loved one.
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