BENEFITS OF A SYSTEM OF CHILD DISCIPLINE by Kenneth O. Peterman
It certainly is difficult to rear children today and much more difficult without a consistent, fair and reasonable discipline system intact in the home. Obviously, the key word in the above title is system.
A systems approach to child discipline assists parents to maintain control of the situation, helping them not to be dictated by the impulses of the moment, not to be influenced by the weeping and wailing of a child. A good system of discipline can be adjusted to meet the needs of a child from early on to late teen years. The content of the system will change over the years but the structure of the system remains the same. The benefit of this consistency is that the parents know exactly what to do and the child knows what to expect as far as the process is concerned. In other words, the steps of the process do not change but the infraction and the type of discipline does change depending upon the issue of discipline and the age of the child.
A systems approach to child discipline assures fairness because decisions are not based upon the impulse of the moment but are consistent with past disciplines. A systems approach to child discipline assures fairness because certain steps are followed in a certain order. This process helps a parent to remain focused on the important thing: using discipline as a teachable moment and not merely as punishment.
A systems approach to child discipline encourages reasonableness throughout the process because the procedures are thought out before the discipline takes place. The systems approach is built on unhurried and non-impulsive thoughts and actions.
The following chart clarifies aspects of a biblical system:
GOAL IS CORRECTIVE — NOT PUNISHMENT
FOCUS IS SPIRITUAL GROWTH ORIENTED — DISCIPLINE NOT AN END IN ITSELF
OUTLOOK IS POSITIVE — NOT NEGATIVE
RESULT IS SECURITY FOR CHILD — NOT BEING RESENTFUL
METHOD IS TEACHING ORIENTED — NOT REACTIONARY
My ebook How to Create Your Own Child Discipline Program on this subject goes into greater detail and provides help in setting up such a system. It can be found on this blog and on amazon.com.